Rather than reading about how to ride a bicycle, we have to get on the bicycle.
I know I can get nervous and still do whatever I want.
Challenge yourself a little, on your own terms.
A socially anxious brain, physiologically, is exactly the same as a non-socially anxious brain.
Whenever we get nervous, it is because there is something we donât know.
The Inner Critic is already uncertain. Letâs show it that itâs actually wrong. It underestimates you.
The mantra of overcoming anxiety is specify, specify, specify.
Remember, feelings arenât facts. Thoughts are transient, not truth.
Pay attention, on purpose, to your breath. Feel the air enter your nostrils.
You know from experience that just showing up is the worst part. It gets better from there.
Youâve done hard things before, and I know you can do this, too, even while youâre feeling nervous.
Itâs okay to feel awkward as long as you keep moving forward.â
She congratulated herself for being brave, despite it being uncomfortable,
Itâs time to go face some fears.
Our brains tell us the worst is possible, but with experience we learn itâs not probable.
You have to earn the comfort through being uncomfortable many, many times.â
Weâre ready when weâre uncomfortable.
Think of all the things you donât feel like doing
We can put action before motivation.
True bravery is being afraid and doing it anyway.
Looking confident, makes people treat you with respect.
If I die, I die. Fuck it.â
One, we are much safer than our imaginations would have us believe, and two, we can handle it.
So commit to being brave for one minute. Once you do that, itâs all downhill from there.
âDo it before you feel confident and the confidence will catch up.â
Youâll feel anxious, square your shoulders, and do it anyway.
Remind yourself of your best and your best will show up.
If you start planning an escape route, you know youâve found your last big challenges.
Practice gone wrong is often great fodder for conversation.
Listen closely to what theyâre saying. Focus on them, them, them.
âBut wait, these are just people!â
How you feel inside and how you appear outside donât match.
We consistently overestimate the amount of attention paid to us.
Not only do most people not notice, but also noticing doesnât necessarily equal judging.
We also try to see the best in others, but assume others will see the worst in us.
Resist comparing their filtered image to your everyday, unfiltered reality.
Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy.
People who are more âembarrassableâ are nicer, more trustworthy, and more generous.
You donât have to be outgoing; you just have to be curious.
The placebo effect just gave them the confidence to put their skills to use.
Dare to be average. Fake it until you are it.
Raise a glass because you want to, not because you need to.
if you tell yourself you are not allowed to say anything totally stupid you wonât say anything.
It doesnât have to be smart, insightful, or articulateâit just has to be about you.
A lot of conversations are lame, but hereâs the thing: a lame conversation doesnât mean youâre lame.
People like those who like them. People also like those who take the initiative.
Competence and confidence arenât what others are hoping for in a friendâtheyâre hoping for warmth.
You donât have to be outgoing, extroverted, confident, or popular.
All you have to be is kind.
âYou always assume that youâre the only one whoâs anxious and no one else is.â
The courage to face your fears is in you,
To you jump in before youâre confident your confidence will catch up.
Each trip over the anxiety peak erodes it.
To keep showing up, to disclose bits of your life, and to show others you like them.
Who you are when youâre not afraid is your authentic self.
Go forth and do. Stretch. Grow. And in doing so, you will find your truthâyour authentic self.
What’s your favorite line so far?
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WOW! Eva that is one fine-tuned breakdown when working on being yourself, of so many steps to consider so; I figure that has to be as comprehensive as any such list could be! Did you find any particular lines to be the most inspiring or motivational for you so far?
Thanks, Lawrence! I think for now it is – “weâre ready when weâre uncomfortable” .. lately I have been tricking myself into not doing task because I don’t want to be uncomfortable, which kind of make me stuck. đ„± How about you? I know there’s quite a lot to choose from âșïž
Oh Eva; there is absolutely so much to choose from! Always had been but you made it even a bigger list by posting this! Motivation is something I don’t have as much of these days like i used to and partly the world being so convoluted and crazy looking now it does put a damper on enthusiasm but then i have to say oh i can’t let the crazy world get me down that bad! Ya know how they say you can’t keep a good guy or gal down! And stay hungry it keeps you hustling I think or at least me; iI hate those huge like Thanksgiving feasts and then after eating too much you can’t or don’t want to move! âșïž
If you have any other good suggestions let me know but I know my dad was always saying when I was growing up if I got lackadaisical as he called it; he would say a good boot in the ass will get you moving!
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